One life. One book

I am a bookworm. All my life I kept on collecting non-fiction books, they are fuel for my brain, mood, soul. They fulfil my need of guidance as I don’t trust humans easily                 ( humans around me) &  I don’t take advice from mediocre humans ( give me legends) so books are my heart and brain. Being a  psychology student we were made aware of a book called “Man’s search for meaning by victor frankl. It was until my 25th birthday I gifted myself this book and . . .  No!! It didn’t change my life. Life still sucks at the time, what it did change were me and My attitude.  Most of the books we read change things around us, it changes the perspective of the events around us, but this book it does something very powerful. It will change the way you look at events, Be it the most fucking event… darkest, dreadful, or deadly. The transparency of this book is beyond human imagination. It is the naked truth of humanity It unwraps the ingredients of how can life be worth when your every possession is lost, every value is destroyed, the entire family is sent to the gas chamber to die, suffering from cold and hunger, every brutality possible to perform & every sadism human can think of. I remember I was reading a chapter from the book while I was travelling in the train where I couldn’t hide tears rolling down my cheeks reading the insanity inside the concentration camps.IMG_0092

Books are amazing, they are like a good ghost. you cant see them, but you feel them ( haven’t really felt a ghost) at least I feel all the books I read, they keep on going round and round in the loop in my thoughts for days and weeks. They affect my nerves. They are best healthy drugs out there. My therapy  This year I had an overdose of this drug and I am still hallucinating in the effect of that drug.  This drug is Man’s search for meaning by victor frankl. It is once in a lifetime book that I would recommend every last man standing on earth. I don’t know if any movie based on this book is being produced but, If not I would love to do that someday( let me be Richie rich) it will serve such a visual therapy to the people. All the positive and optimistic words out there summed up together will fall short to the define the goodness, effectiveness and holiness of this book. Fuck religion, philosophy, race, gender, sex, and distinguish that we have had made to explain human behaviour is challenged by this book and does full justice to it. It blows your mind when you will know the capacity that human holds. This book will give reason to every man who has no reason to live. I no more crib my sufferings anymore I only cry them out. I no more question nature or blame it for the unjust done but I embrace the truth that it will be gone soon. We all are fucked up in our respective heads when it comes to the unnecessary suffering and pain even when being a good soul, this book will unfold that chaos and bring us to peace & acceptance.  You might not be a fan of reading books but One book in one lifetime will not hurt. so go and grab it. I promise you will be on the edge of the sofa with your heart in your mouth.IMG_4779

quotes I can tattoo anyday …

1.  “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

2.  ‘Yes, a man can get used to anything, do not ask them how’.

3. “For the first time in my life, I saw the truth as it is set into song by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom by so many thinkers. The truth – that Love is the ultimate and highest goal to which man can aspire. Then I grasped the meaning of the greatest secret that human poetry and human thought and belief have to impart: The salvation of man is through love and in love.”IMG_4782

4.  “Don’t aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one’s surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. I want you to listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long-run—in the long-run, I say!—success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it”

5. “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”

6. “But there was no need to be ashamed of tears, for tears bore witness that a man had the greatest of courage, the courage to suffer.”

7. “Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality. No one can become fully aware of the very essence of another human being unless he loves him. By his love he is enabled to see the essential traits and features in the beloved person; and even more, he sees that which is potential in him, which is not yet actualized but yet ought to be actualized. Furthermore, by his love, the loving person enables the beloved person to actualize these potentialities. By making him aware of what he can be and of what he should become, he makes these potentialities come true.”

8. “An abnormal reaction to an abnormal situation is normal behaviour.”

9. “What is to give light must endure burning.”

10. “Ultimately, a man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather must recognise that it is he who is asked. In a word, each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life; to life, he can only respond by being responsible.”

11. “So live as if you were living already for the second time and as if you had acted the first time as wrongly as you are about to act now!”

12. “Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose.”

13. “Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.”

14. “A man who becomes conscious of the responsibility he bears toward a human being who affectionately waits for him, or to an unfinished work, will never be able to throw away his life. He knows the “why” for his existence, and will be able to bear almost any “how”.

15. “Our greatest freedom is the freedom to choose our attitude.”IMG_0021

and the last but not the least.

“It is not freedom from conditions, but it is freedom to take a stand toward the conditions.”IMG_4783

Have a good day


Identifying Depresssion

Hi there, it seems finally in India people are getting familiar with the word depression. Its been talk of the town a lot lately. I don’t want to talk about what is depression but about its symptoms because instead of defining lets know how to identify it which will make it more easy to know Depression. Now if you google the word ‘depression’ all you will get is the horrendously scary image of black abstract god knows what does it means or people with extreme reactions which is dead scary, let me share some.

I wish depression was so easy to spot on but, it’s not. People don’t go around looking like this or siting in a corner of room where one can spot and say, “hey! I know it its depression”. Depression is not like cold/fever where you sneeze and bingo you have cold, that is not how our world of mental health works, it is different from our physical health. depression has its symptoms and signs just that it requires special attention to it, look around to your friends, relative, sibling, if you see these symptoms present in them you can take them to help. Now present of these symptoms might not mean 100% that the person is in depression but you will surely know  something is wrong and in which direction it is heading to. so lets begin with how do we identify it.

Symptoms of Depression:

A. The symptoms are present for at least 2 weeks. ( this is one of the most important thing to keep in mind guys. the symptoms below has to be there from past 2 weeks, also not all the symptoms will be present in a personas depression manifest in its own different way from people to people but at least 5 of the symptoms  will be there.  Remember different people have different signs and symptoms when in depression.

  1. Sad mood most of the day, nearly everyday with subjective report of being sad or feeling empty or observation made by others.
  2. Markedly decrease interest or pleasure in all or almost all activities  most of the day, nearly every day ( do pay attention to most of the day or nearly everyday ,yes ! people in depression just cannot have fun or stop enjoying activities they once used to not suddenly but with course of time)
  3. Weight loss or weight gain when not dieting, or increase or decrease in appetite nearly everyday. ( imagine a foodie friend of yours just no more feel like eating or is hungry, wont you find it stranger? I would )
  4. SLEEP: insomnia or hypersomnia every day. trust me on this one, this is a big clue if suddenly a friend of yours who was a sloth loved sleeping or used to get eight-hour of proper sleep can’t go to bed  and is awake all night, or if goes to bed he/she does wake up in middle of the night has then has difficulty falling asleep.
  5. Fatigue or loss of energy  nearly everyday : There will be days when you wake up and don’t feel fresh or doing a small task makes you feel exhausted. You feel dull and doze all day long.
  6.  feeling worthless or having inappropriate guilt nearly everyday:  person in depression view the world or start viewing it black and white, going pessimist or thinking negative in fact even seeing negative in most scenario can happen.
  7. Thoughts of death, or committing suicide, can’t stop thinking about suicide, trying to commit one. This one is serious indicator, no one takes life for granted but people in depression, if you ever hear anyone around you saying it to you, or you yourself getting thoughts of ending your life drag that person or your own ass to a psychologist. NO JOKES.

These criteria I mentioned above are definitely going to be present in depression to certain extend. See depression is categorised in terms of its intensity as mild, medium and severe. Someone might show them intensely that it is affecting their daily activity or job or relationship drastically and in some work life or relationship is pretty intact, But the change will be evident in their behavior,mood etc. Faking a smile or orgasm can be easy but not faking your sadness people do try at times to ignore how they feel  but they know it and close one can definitely see it, so when you sense it on based of the symptoms above, take action.

Have a great day,

              ” LIVE THIS ONE LIFE A LITTLE MORE ” – Enliven